Decisions

It's amazing what time will do. It's been 11 months. I've stood my ground in sticking with my decisions and have struggled it out through the tough stuff (but came out on top!). I do not stand alone, my strength comes from the Lord.

Philippians 4:13
"I can do all things through Him who gives me strength".

New Year, New Things

So it's early (REALLY EARLY) Christmas morning and I can't sleep! I've been thinking about the new year and what I want to do this next year. There are so many things that I've always said I wanted to try but haven't. This next year I'm going to do it! So far on my list I have: snowboarding, camping with my daughter and wakeboarding. I know there's going to be more, but that's what I've started off with. I've actually set a date in January to go for some snowboarding lessons, so that's already in the works. I talked to my cousins, aunts and uncles tonight and they've agreed to take me out on their boat and show me the ropes of wakeboarding...so why not through in camping while out there?!

I value my family a lot. Not just my immediate family, but my entire extended family as well. This summer it is my goal to get my whole extended family on my dad's side out to my place for a BBQ (the weather better be good because not everyone is going to fit in my 720 sq ft house!). Tonight my grandma expressed that she would love to have a picture of all of her great grand kids along with one of her grand children (my youngest cousin). It was my youngest cousin who was wishing that his cousins would start having kids so that he wouldn't be the youngest anymore. His wish came true, and now there are 5 (almost 6) babies and young kids. I'd love to get this picture for my grandma. Wish me luck in getting this done!

Sounds like I have a pretty exciting year planned! I'm looking forward to it!

Love is a Choice

I know I've linked this page to my facebook too, but I just love how this dude describes love! I think waaaaay too many marriages end because people's "buzz" has ended and they just think "oh, well I've fallen out of love." That's such a cop out!
http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/falling-in-and-out-of-love/

Forgiveness

I know I need to forgive. I need to battle bitterness. I've seen first hand how bitterness manifests itself and takes hold of a person's life. After getting to know these people, I always told myself that I don't want "end up" like that. Bitterness has made them angry, almost cronically angry. It seems there is always a problem with everything and everyone and that they can never be satisified or happy with anything. I thought I had forgiven the people who have hurt me. Sometimes I find myself needing to continue to forgive on a regular basis though. That makes me think, have I truly forgiven them then? I guess time will tell. It seems there is some truth to the saying "time heals all wounds". I find time is definitely helping, however, it just that, a helper. Time is not the ultimate healer, God is.

New Traditions

I won't be with my daughter this Christmas. In fact, I won't be seeing her for an entire week over the holidays. Wow, I really don't know what I'm going to do with myself then. Work can only keep me occupied for so long. Christmas has always been a holiday I cherished most with my family. Family is very important to me, and for me to be missing part of my family on Christmas is going to be tough. I have to make new traditions now. I'm celebrating Christmas with my family a week early this year, and well, every other year from now on. I'm still looking forward to my family time this year, even if it's not going to be on Christmas day.

Christmas 2011 is something our whole family is REALLY looking forward to. It will be the first Christmas that my daughter will have a cousin! And, I'm looking forward to the roll of "Aunty Kristy" (sounds good, doesn't it?).

This crazy adventure called life is just getting interesting. I can't wait to see what the next year holds.

Perspective

per·spec·tive (p r-sp k t v). n. 1. a. A view or vista. b. A mental view or outlook

So I'm sitting here, alone, in my house (ultimately avoiding housework).  My daughter is away this weekend visiting her dad (for an extra day this time).  It's these weekends that are actually the hardest on me.  It's always SO quitet in my house when she's away.  When it's this quiet, my mind runs wild, and it's at these times I really have to train my thinking to "not go there".  I often think of things like "how could you do this to me?", "Your taking MY daughter for your regular visits when you didn't even want a child in the first place",  "I've essentially given you a free pass to not HAVE to be a dad, and now you're choosing what you say you didn't want."  

OK, so I'm going to look at this situation from a different perspective....I have regular time to take care of myself.  Regular time to catch up on sleep, housework, shopping, whatever it may be.  Not all moms get that, and I am very fortunate to have this time for me.  The circumstances are unfortunate, but oh well.  And, the fact that my daughter does have time with her dad is important.  In fact, she now has more time with her dad than she did before.  So, I do beleive that is a blessing, not only for her, but for her dad as well.  I have no doubt that she is teaching him something amazing about life, love and true happiness...I just wish I could see it!


So, as I sit here alone, I am thanking God for everything he has blessed me with, even in my darkest hour. 

Take Care of Yourself

I've actually found this easier to do now than in the past.  Separation and divorce often times dumps on self esteem.  I know it did for me. I got my hair done recently, and I'm reminded of how FABULOUS this makes me feel.  It might seem small, but it's important to take time to make yourself feel good.  Other things I like to do is buying myself a new outfit a few times a year, decking myself out with my MK samples and actually going out!  What do you do to boost your self esteem?